Yes. I was talking about the word, "nigger", so I wrote the word, "nigger".

If I had been talking about the word, "banana", then I would have written the word, "banana", and just like when I talked about the phrase, "douche bag", I wrote the phrase, "douche bag".

I do not fear words.

Someone messaged me about my having actually written out the word to which I had been referring. I wanted to explore the person's position on the matter further, but the person refused to do so.

As the person is not likely to be alone in his/her belief, I bring it to the public in hopes of better understanding this seemingly irrational choice of belief.

This is the journal entry of mine that he/she read: What's wrong with using "blood libel", exactly?

The apparently offending bit is at the end, but here it is out of context:

Yay jews, and Go Isriel, but those of you who are offended need to get over yourselves. It's starting to sound like the racist "that's our word" crap many black people spew about "nigger".

People are offended by things because they choose to feel offended. They make the interpretations of their choice. If you feel harmed, then it's because you harmed yourself. Get over it.

This is a quote from his/her response:

I've got a problem with the N word. So i guess you use it since you feel people like myself should be okay if someone calls us that.

Given that I actually typed out the word, and that he/she read the word, the "guess" must be about what I might have done outside of that post.

As I said before, when I am talking about a word, I do indeed use the word about which I am speaking. I am not afraid to say words.

What needs to be understood is that I have never CALLED anyone a nigger. It is a completely useless word for me.

The next issue comes with the phrase "should be okay".

The words "should" and "shouldn't" are used when some sort of rule (used generally) is in place. I do not think in terms of "should" and "shouldn't" in this instance.

This is what is happening when you are offended by someone calling you something with intent to "hurt" you:

The person is holding out a stick and telling you to take it and beat yourself with it. For no apparent reason, you obey the person.

My question is, why would a person think that they shouldn't be okay with being called a nigger?

What is wrong with simply ignoring the person and not giving them the satisfaction of having affected you negatively? What is wrong with not giving them that power over you?

What rule am I unaware of that dictates that you engage in self-destructive thought practices just because you were called something, much less just because the word just happened to appear objectively somewhere?

We do not make a choice unless we believe we are going to benefit from it in some way, so, if you are offended by simply seeing the word or by being called the word, then how do you believe that you are benefitting from feeling offended?

Another quote from his/her response was rather interesting.

Enjoy your theory it's okay for anyone to call me that with impunity.

What part of anything I wrote says that I think it's okay for anyone to call a person a nigger?

What logic dictates that you choosing to not feel offended makes it okay for person to try to offend you?

If someone maliciously stabs me to death, but I choose to just accept it as the reality of what is happening and nothing more, then does that somehow make it okay for that person to have murdered me?